Healing from Past Trauma: Reclaiming Your Power and Moving Forward

Introduction: Recognizing the Hidden Impact of Trauma

I want to start by asking you something:

Have you ever realized that you’ve been carrying trauma without knowing it? That there’s something from your past holding on so tightly that it drains your energy, limits your power, and keeps you stuck—no matter how much you try to move forward?

Maybe you’re aware of your trauma. But even then, the question becomes—what do you do with it? Can we really change the past, or are we bound by it forever?

BLAME AND ANGER: whose fault is it ?

We often ask, "Whose fault is it?" Whether we blame others or ourselves, the weight of those feelings stays the same, sitting heavy in our bodies. Anger directed at others or ourselves—there’s no real difference. It’s still there, consuming us.

If you're still blaming someone, think about this: What did you wish you could have said or done when that trauma first touched your life? Did you suppress it, ignore it, or maybe just didn’t know how to cope at the time? That’s okay. Now, you have the chance to have an honest conversation with yourself. That dialogue will help you rebuild a deeper relationship with who you are and lead you toward your truth.

UNDERSTANDING AND SETTING BOUNDARIES: a key to healing.

As an adult, you now have the power to understand yourself more fully. You can start to figure out what you were missing or what was too much in your life. This understanding is key to feeling whole, safe, and complete again.

Do you have healthy boundaries? Have they been crossed in the past? Sometimes, we’re the ones crossing our own boundaries by not taking care of ourselves, by neglecting our needs. Start by identifying where these boundaries were broken and who was responsible—whether it was someone else or, in some cases, yourself.

Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Power

In my opinion, the healthiest way to cope is to finally stop and give yourself what you need. Healing from trauma is a journey, but there are a few steps you can take to begin reclaiming your power:

1. Acknowledge Your Trauma: The first step is recognizing the impact of trauma on your life. Be honest with yourself about what hurts.

2. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself through this process. Healing is not linear, and you may face setbacks, but that’s okay.

3. Set Boundaries: Identify where you need to create or reinforce boundaries in your life to protect your emotional and mental well-being.

4. Consider Therapy or Support: Speaking with a professional can help you process your trauma and create actionable steps toward healing.

5. Engage in Self-Care: This can mean anything from taking time for yourself, journaling, meditating, or spending time in nature. The important thing is to tune into what your mind and body need.

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting or erasing the past. It means reclaiming your power, taking it back so the past doesn’t control you anymore. You’ll remember what happened, but it won’t have the same hold over you. It won’t hurt you like it once did.

My Story: How I Began to Heal

In my life, my mother passed away when I was just 11. I couldn’t get her back. But what I could do, through discovering myself, was to understand what I was missing and learn how to give it to myself. I’ll never forget that she’s not here. I can’t replace the love she would have given me. But I’ve learned to love myself in ways I didn’t know were possible—and that has become my superpower.

Moving Forward: Reclaiming Your Power

To reclaim your power means to take charge of your healing. It’s about honoring your needs, showing up for yourself, and giving yourself the care you’ve always deserved. It’s a journey that takes time, but each step forward, no matter how small, is a victory.

So I ask you: What is your superpower? How will you reclaim your power?

Call to Action: Let’s Start a Conversation

I would love to hear your thoughts. Have you experienced trauma that still affects you today? How are you working on healing and reclaiming your power? Share your story in the comments below, and let’s support each other on this journey toward healing.

Thank you for taking the time to read and share your thoughts—by sharing, you help create a space for healing and growth for everyone.

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